A woman is frustrated with her boyfriend after receiving flowers yet again for her birthday.
Taking to Reddit’s “Am I Overreacting” forum, the woman explained that her longtime boyfriend comes from a family of florists and is still involved in the business despite working another job.
She continued, explaining that her partner always gives flowers as a gift. When she called him out on it, she said that it started a big fight.
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In her post, she wrote, “The problem is he gets me flowers for every [single] occasion [whether] it be birthday or Thanksgiving etc. While I appreciate the gesture, I feel like giving me the same gift every single time [wasn’t] so exciting.”
She added that it was a bitter pill to swallow since she “put too much effort and thought and money towards his gifts.”
“I felt it was unfair that all I get is flowers (will probably keep getting even after marriage). For my birthday he got me flowers again. I sort of snapped and confronted about him about how disappointed I felt,” she explained.
For her birthday, the woman said that she gave her partner a wish list, but he called her “ungrateful and made [me] feel like I was in the wrong for how I reacted when I got upset and couldn’t let it go.”
She included a text exchange where her boyfriend said that she was “complaining” for not liking the flowers.
“It’s like you completely ignored my wishes and decided to get the gift that YOU wanted,” she replied in the chat, noting that she had given him a wish list of potential gifts.
He said it was “hella inappropriate” for an adult to make a list of gift ideas, arguing that it was childish.
After he called his partner a “great gifter,” she said that she pulls it off by listening, adding, “It’s called being THOUGHTFUL.”
However, he was ultimately not impressed by the conversation, texting, “I’m sorry I can’t possibly think of anything more romantic than flowers – every normal girl would appreciate that btw.”
She wanted to know if her response was warranted, noting that her boyfriend is now giving her the “silent treatment.” Fellow Redditors had some thoughts.
“You know we choose who we are dating right,” someone wrote, adding, “like you don’t have to stay with him you can leave him and find someone just like him but actually cares about getting you a special gift.”
Many others assured her that she was not overreacting, calling out his response as inappropriate.
“Five years of him ignoring what you actually want, and then calling you childish for making it easy for him and implying there’s something wrong with you for not wanting the same gift for every event. You literally handed him a list of ‘these would make me happy’ and he went ‘nah I have flowers on auto ship’, ” one Redditor wrote. “He’s showing you he doesn’t care about you. Time to stop caring back.”
Another said that the man “wants an easy and inexpensive gift,” opining that “flowers are something to gift without occasion or in addition to a present. They are not a present. You are not ungrateful when you ask someone to be thoughtful for a BIRTHDAY GIFT.”
Someone agreed, writing, “I’ve gotten my wife flowers on her birthday, but that’s in addition to the real gift. Flowers are an anytime gift, not a full birthday gift, even if they cost $100.”